Why “Pick Me” Energy Is Killing Real Connection - ep. 223

In this episode, I’m unpacking something I noticed while putting myself back into real-life rooms, and once I saw it, I couldn’t unsee it.

This isn’t about confidence. It’s not about messaging. And it’s definitely not about needing a better elevator pitch.

It’s about why so many conversations feel performative instead of powerful, why polished introductions fall flat, and how “pick me” energy quietly kills real connection, even when you’re saying all the right things.

We’re talking voice, energy, orientation, and what actually creates connection when you stop auditioning and start engaging.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why networking has drifted into performance instead of connection
  
• How “pick me” energy shows up in polished, over-coached voices
  
• The difference between speaking at a room and speaking into a conversation
  
• Why telling women to “speak up” misses the real issue
  
• How the frequency of your voice changes when your attention moves outward
  
  

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